An important step in healing is to allow yourself to feel your emotions.
But sometimes we get caught up in noticing our emotions. We notice what we feel and how bad it feels, we continue to notice the time that passed since we are feeling these emotions, starting to develop thoughts whether these emotions are going away or they are here to stay. Wondering whether our condition is ever going to change.
Basically, we think that we allow ourselves to be with ourselves while in reality, we are impatient to the state that we’re in, to go away. We are in our minds, in our thoughts. Everywhere but with our emotions.
So if you want to allow or accept your emotions. You need to stop waiting for them to go away. You need to be without any anticipation or judgment about what you’re feeling. Stop your struggle by surrendering to your struggle. Let it win. And be with yourself.