Thinking about the day that we’re no longer going to be here as sad as it may feel, it brings a sense of relief with it. Because we are finally released from judging ourselves and our past. If you’re no longer here, there is no one left to think about your agonizing thoughts right? No one to think about what bothers you. No one to judge the way you feel or look. This sounds like I’m promoting death here. No, I’m just trying to get a clear perspective about the choices that we make every day when we say yes to our judgment of ourselves and to the projected fears about the future. We are choosing to live our lives believing in thoughts that scare us and make us feel bad.
We all say yes to all the things and points of view we believe in. And as a result, we all agree with our thoughts that describe the way we feel. No one is hearing, approving or agrees with the thoughts that we have about how we feel, except us.
When we get hurt and conclude the reasons for our feeling to ourselves, we stick to those reasons. Because we agree with our mind’s reasoning, we proceed to agree with our thoughts. The minute our conclusion to why we feel the way we do involves something or someone other than ourselves, we are trapped. Because we choose to associate our feelings with something outside of our bodies, be it a circumstance or someone else.
We are unable to heal as long as we hold on to that conclusion or the need for circumstance to change to our satisfaction. For example, you might find it difficult to forgive someone before being asked for forgiveness. Everyone has different rules and beliefs about what needs to change so they can move on.
We all stumble and fall into this trap from time to time. Forgetting that the only one that can heal us is us. We wait for the circumstance to change and match what we believe should happen next so we can heal. But if we’re smarter, we can choose to see the bigger picture and heal regardless of circumstance. Either way, we heal when we decide to, whether it happens when we agree with circumstance or not is up to us. In the end, the one that approves of healing is us.