What is the closest thing that you have? What is the one thing that is important to you the most? Do you depend on it? Or perhaps can’t be without it? Is it more than one thing? Take a moment to think about the things that are closest to you that you can’t be without. Now ask yourself – Do I believe that what I have will always exist there for me or am I worried about what I have disappearing from my life?
When we think about what is important to us, we usually think about the things we interact and engage with, in our daily lives such as – other people, our job, all the circumstance that have an impact on our lifestyle. But when we think whether or not we can rely on those circumstances to always be there for us, the answer is always, no. Other people have lives of their own so you can’t expect from them to show up when you want, people change jobs, money flows in and out, life is always moving and changing around us. Some things disappear, and other things appear.
We refuse to accept life’s circumstance as temporary therefore we tend to invest a lot of effort in controlling what is eventually destined to disappear from our lives. We think about external circumstances as the only source for our happiness, and the way we feel, that is why we hold on to them so strongly.
As long as we ignore our temporary conditions and our own mortality, we will live lives trying to preserve the unpreservable, worrying about what would happen to us when the things that we care about, disappear from our lives.
We turn to spiritual growth for a deeper understanding of life and ourselves so we can find peace by recognizing the true nature of life and the true nature of our own existence.
It is challenging to become aware and accept the fact that there is nothing outside of you that you can always rely on, turn to, something that will never disappoint you and will always support and love you. Acknowledging the fact that everything is perishable, unpreservable and temporary scares us. Death scares us. On the other hand, if it weren’t for death and the ending of things, we wouldn’t be able to recognize life, and new beginnings. Life comes with death the same way as every ending comes with a new beginning.
The going and changing of everything results in appreciation and gratitude of everything that is passing us. If we practice evolving spiritually, we get to experience our true eternal being. However, that too is a passing experience, and it would be up to you, to turn it into a deep permanent knowing. The knowing that you are eternal takes a lot of pressure off the table. However, it doesn’t promise us the life of our dreams.
As long as we are still here experiencing life, none of the experiences are eternal. And when we come to live that knowing deep inside, we begin to let go of dependence. This, in its turn, reveals a place in ourselves that is always present to life and is always available to us 24/7. Ourselves.
We are the source through which every life experience goes through. The source that experiences beginnings and endings, happiness and sadness, aware of every thought and emotion. That which agrees, and disagrees, chooses and decides every move according to circumstance and experience.
When the fading of every negative experience becomes apparent to you to the degree that you see its temporary eruption as you live it, you become untouched by its effect. Because you no longer hold on onto anything external that once defined who you are. You understand that everything external is continually expiring. You see negative emotions and experience as non-lasting abruptions that eventually lose their momentum and vanish, so there is no point for you to keep any negative conclusion about yourself as a result of those abruptions. You gracefully remain present to the loving nature that you have towards yourself and everything that is passing you by.