What stops us from doing what we want? What prevents us from planning and executing our plans? Is it boring work or forgetting about the big picture while doing the tedious work day after day? What puts out our flame of desire? Why we get to a point from which we no longer understand why we do what we do?
If you repeat the process of starting and quitting enough times, the next time when inspiration strikes it will be replaced by impatience, not wanting to do the work that makes us forget about our desires and so we quit ahead of time. Wanting to do something but not knowing how or getting lost in the meticulous work can make us feel bad and lead to wanting to forget about our desires.
The problem is time. We are pressured by time to achieve our goals as fast as we can so we can start reaping the rewards. As a result, we end up working and not enjoying what we do while we put all of our expectation on the final destination. No wonder we don’t last and quit before arriving at the finish line.
The trick is to make the path towards the finish line enjoyable. If you don’t pressure yourself and work as much as you like and not as much as you can while keeping the big picture in mind, you won’t feel the need to be done with it.
Being dedicated doesn’t have to be boring. Work as if your success is guaranteed because you’re committed to following through till the end, so there is no reason you won’t reach your destination.
With that said, there are times when our body is already trained to feel bad when we think about starting a new project, a job, a business. It feels like a burden, and we can’t start.
What can we do?
The easy way not to feel what we feel is to forget altogether about what we wanted to do and wait for a miracle. However, this approach is not very helpful if you’re planning to live a fulfilling life, realizing your dreams and inspirations.
What we need to understand is that our body already reacts a certain way to some ideas and there is no way around it. Our body remembers what we don’t like from our past experiences, and it is alerting us ahead of time not to proceed with what will eventually make us suffer. It’s a defense mechanism that tries to protects us.
We can change this reaction by exercising thinking about the desires we have that make us feel bad while calming ourselves and reminding ourselves that there is no pressure whatsoever. If you’re willing to wait and give time to your body to readjust and heal, not forcing anything until it does, the body will change its reaction. Practice finding comfort while being uncomfortable. Do this sincerely, with the intent of providing safety for yourself, and you will be able to move towards your goals.
Sometimes our body reacts in a way we don’t understand. We might feel anxiety, fear or pressure, not knowing why. Chasing for meaning is not always required for healing, however, providing safety and love to what hurts and asks for your attention is.