One aspect of our existence is emotion. When experiencing emotions, we immediately interpret them with our thoughts and give them meaning. We do that with every experience not just emotions. Everything is processed through our logic and thoughts at any given moment. Nobody is asking us to do it, we just do.
The problem is that sometimes we don’t have all the information and the knowledge to objectively interpret our own experiences. We worry because we see life through our limited interpretations based only on what we know and believe in.
The main reason why we “get stuck” on a particular emotion is that we give it meaning that is related to circumstances, ideology, other people, and our beliefs. When emotion rises, it has no interest in staying, but we choose to associate it to the way we see ourselves and the world and these things do not change often.
A therapist usually will point out the conditions and beliefs that you’ve created to refute an interpretation of a particular emotion, by presenting different points of view. For example, if you believe that your sense of worthiness depends on your achievements, then you’ll find yourself feeling worthless when you don’t succeed, lose or fail to achieve what you wanted. This is a social belief that you have come to adopt when in reality only you can define the conditions by which you see yourself worthy.
In many circumstances emotion is an indication to our lack of love, unworthiness, desire to please others, blaming and judging. Therefore it is essential to understand all the points of view and beliefs on which we base our interpretations so that we can give up the meaning attached to the emotion and allow it to be released.
Every negative emotion is based on fear, and as long as we insist on believing that what we fear is real, we will always strive to defend ourselves, our dignity, our love, and our worthiness.
Remind yourself that emotion has no voice and before you rush to give it one using your limited interpretations, stop. Breathe. Give yourself a break before you judge and blame yourself or others. If you do that you’ll have a real opportunity to identify your patterns of thought, and all the points of view you live by and fall victim to.
If we choose to see our emotional wound as we see our physical wounds, it will quickly become apparent to us, what we need to do to recover. We won’t really need to know why we were injured, there will not be a necessity to be right, to blame circumstances or other people. The pain will pass faster if we choose not to allow ourselves to sink into the limited interpretations of our mind and instead choose to wake up to them.