As children, we are physically and mentally limited. Therefore we rely on our parents to care for us. We learn to trust and depend on external factors, to feel safe. As a result, we find ourselves continually expecting the feeling of safety to come from the outside.
As adults, we continue with the same pattern of anticipation. At Work, in relationships, in society, in our family. We expect to receive the same feeling of safety from an external source when we’re looking to be valued, cared for, loved by others.
Whenever we do something, even if it is for ourselves, we will always make sure that what we choose to do will be accepted by someone important to us because without their acceptance we will feel less safe in the world.
When we do something, we always worry about the consequences and the failures of our actions because the results of our actions influence our feeling of safety.
Notice what prevents you from being at peace with yourself, on what do you depend on feeling safe? From whom and from what do you expect it to come?
Pursuing everything external to us can never bring us safety because the nature of everything external to us is to change. The only thing that does not change is found beyond our fears and concerns, it is who we really are.
Silence your thoughts by surrendering and giving in to everything that is now, give yourself a break from judgment and criticism for a few seconds to discover and experience your true self beyond the fears and beliefs.