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Integrating the true self

Sometimes when we choose different perspectives, we want to detach ourselves from the people that remind us of our old views and beliefs. We do this out of fear, to be affected by those people emotionally

If you experienced yourself beyond your thoughts and became convinced that this is who you truly are, even if that experience lasted 2 seconds. Next time you feel unworthy, lacking confidence, unloved, unappreciated, disapproved, criticized, judged by yourself or others, at that moment, remind yourself of the experience you had. Choose to see for a minute that you are not what you feel right now amid your emotional discomfort. With that reminder and knowing, be encouraged to see and face the perspective that your emotion represents.

Since you had a glimpse of who you really are, you know that place is full of bliss and love and confidence. That place is embracing all and loving all.  So, become interested in seeing what your emotions represent since it is clearly misrepresenting who you truly are. Investigate what truth you believe in that makes you feel like you do. Choose to see the roots of that truth, where did it come from and why it is important for you to obey it. Find that story that you believe is true, find the rules you feel you must obey in that story that make you feel the way you do.

Many times we know what we want, but we have troubles of letting go out of fear of not being accepted by others. Understand if you choose to detach yourself from a story you believe in, separate yourself from following the rules of that story, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you must detach yourself from the people that also follow the same story or rules.

Sometimes when we choose different perspectives, we want to detach ourselves from the people that remind us of our old views and beliefs. We do this out of fear, to be affected by those people emotionally. Since we do not fully accept our own choice to believe in something new, we avoid all traps that can pull us back to our past selves, like our previous social circles. We secretly criticize them in our minds for trying to pull us back to where we do not want to be anymore. Or we criticize the beliefs they choose to follow. The same beliefs we once followed.

All this comes from our lack of confidence in the new belief or perspective we chose to believe in. However, we are constantly being reminded by circumstance or others of our not fully established conviction to follow our choice. If you become aware of that, you will understand that all the challenges you face of integrating a new belief in your life, are for you to strengthen your choice to become convinced in your new perspective. Become aware of the fears and the stories your fears tell you about yourself. What other beliefs are you trying to avoid that might pull you back to your old self.

If you are afraid of encountering people that choose to live like you once did, understand that this is their choice. You have chosen to live like this also in the past. It doesn’t mean that it is good or bad, it is simply a choice. Everyone has the right to live and follow what they believe in. There is no need to fear that, it is not contagious. Choose to see the choice of those people instead of trying to figure out the benefits of that choice. See that their choice is serving them the way it served you in the past. You have no obligation of converting others beliefs to your own, the same way you are not obligated to follow others advice and live the way they believe you should.

Just simply respect the choice of everyone and your own.

Yours truly,
Boris,

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