Without experiencing anything, we wouldn’t be who we are today. It is only when presented with an experience we can choose to evolve in a particular direction.
A branch of a tree, when faced with an obstacle, will choose a path to get around that obstacle. We are also choosing every time our next path when we’re facing our circumstances.
We are not victims of our experiences, just like the tree is not a victim of the obstacle in front of its branches. We are the choosers of the different paths laid out in front of us.