My life, my job, my parents, my spouse, my personality, my thoughts, my body.
Are these “things” really yours? You might believe that they are since they are close to you, noticed by you. However, they are all temporary, some just passing you by, and some are perishable.
How can you call something your own if that something is temporary? You can’t.
You must have complete control and total governance over the thing that you call your own.
Now think, is there really such a thing?
Is there a thing that you can commit to, take full responsibility for, hold it in your hand, ensuring that it would never break, fail, or get lost. You can’t. We can’t even sometimes control our own health.
There is always a chance that you will lose your job, break up with your partner, get lost in your thoughts, or get sick.
If you don’t have control over the things you consider your own, then you don’t really own them. They are not yours, they do not belong to you.
People have the tendency to define themselves by what they have and achieve. We let things define us, tell a story about who we are. We describe our personality based on things that happened to us. Based on what career, apartment, partner, or how much money we have.
We attach ourselves to what we consider is ours and what defines our status, and then when that thing or another breaks or disappears from our life, we also tend to break emotionally.
If you define yourself by what you consider is yours, by what you own or have, it means that you value your worth according to that.
When we depend on things that pass or change or break unpredictably, we suffer because we believe that now we are less because we lost that job, that house, that partner, or failed to achieve our goals.
That is why the sooner you understand that nothing is really yours, the easier your life will become. You will begin to see how fortunate you are to be surrounded by things people and circumstances that make your life easier. You will start to appreciate life like never before. Because life doesn’t owe you anything and yet you are supported by it every second, you can breathe and survive.
A wise man knows he has nothing to lose because he doesn’t own anything. When you stop managing your fears to lose or protect something you think you own, you will have the opportunity to witness that you are loved by life, and there is no reason to fear anything.