Many people struggle to let go of things they suffer from in their lives. When emotions overwhelm us, we get entangled in them, unable to get passed what is bothering us. We tend to believe that something needs to happen, or we need to do something, to change something in ourselves or others to escape what we feel. If you struggle in your mind unable to let go of what is bothering you, this is for you.
We believe in unnecessary conditions to when, where, how, and under what circumstances we get to have peace of mind, happiness, or relief from what is bothering us. This way, we bound ourselves to follow conditions that prevent us from being at peace at every given moment.
Understanding your conditions to your happiness will bring awareness to what you think is stopping you from being happy, but it won’t bring you any happiness. Becoming self-aware without having the ability to get yourself out of suffering might even cause you frustration and anger.
This happens for two reasons. The first reason is that we are still latching to the idea that something must be done so we can be happy. The second reason is that we secretly fight some emotionally disturbing experience we are aware of, but not seeing that we are against it. Our fighting inevitably leads us to focus more on what we think is wrong.
What I’m about to say next could release you from the pitfalls mentioned above to your struggle to find peace. However, it is up to you to stay open to this universal truth.
You are not responsible for figuring out how, where, when and under what circumstances you will feel better.
You will feel better regardless of whether you do it on your own terms or on the the terms of the universe.
The problem is when you chose to feel better on your own terms. It takes allot of time and effort to get what you want on your terms. And sometimes our terms never be fulfilled.
For example, if you are aware that you’re lonely and believe that nobody likes you and at the same time you expect someone to make you happy, it will never happen. Simply because you believe that nobody likes you. Why would someone spend time with you if they don’t like you? So you see how easily you can set yourself up and fall into a never resolving emotional loop.
Another path you can take is to let the universe to do it’s magic by letting go of figuring out what needs to be done.
At this point, I hope that you are pondering about what terms does the universe has for my happiness. And the answer to that question is – None whatsoever.
The universe is already set up everything for you so you could be at peace right now, at this moment. The reason you don’t see it because you are convinced that there are obstacles to your happiness at this moment. Obstacles, such as feelings and thoughts and circumstance that make you suffer.
When we feel bad, we don’t allow a possibility for our emotional state to change without our intervention or the intervention of others. That is because we got used to the idea that whatever is influencing our emotional state is under our control or someone else’s.
If you think that you are in charge of your emotions, then how come you can’t be happy all the time? Doesn’t that mean that you are not in charge?
If you think that someone else is manipulating your emotions, then who gets to decide who is that person going to be?
If you feel indifferent about a stranger insulting you on the street and yet you are offended when someone close to you sais the exact same words, doesn’t that mean that it is you that decides who gets to manipulate your emotions? But then again, if it is up to you, how come you are not happy all the time?
So if no one is responsible for how you feel including you, there is no point in looking for who is responsible.
What is left to do now is to discover for yourself that something greater than you already got your back, and you can relax with that notion.
Next time you feel hurt, notice the inner need to accuse yourself or others and then choose to drop that instinct. Understand that it is the accuser that is focusing on what is hurting and tries to fix it by accusing oneself or the other. There is no need to do that.
All that is needed is your acceptance of letting things be as they are. You’re not doing it from a place of weakness or disempowerment. You do it because you want to find out what the universe has to say about it. The greater power, god, whatever you may call it, is always there to catch you when you let go. Allow yourself to find out that you are not alone that you are loved.
Remember this and put your focus on only existing not succumbing to the familiar urge to engage with what the mind has to say about how you feel, and you will see that everything will happen for you.