Sometimes when we are lied to, we call it deception, disrespect, other times we call it a betrayal. Either way, you look at it, we feel hurt, and the reason we get hurt is that we depend on other people's opinions about us. And when we find out that our source of approval was dishonest we begin to question our own worthiness
What we need to understand is that emotions are guidance to achieve our true desires, nothing more and nothing less. When you feel good, you are following your guidance, when you feel bad, you are not. The problem is that most people perceive emotions as unchangeable facts. And since we don't question facts we don't inquire about their purpose.
Understand that nothing defines you, not even your thoughts and emotions. Choose to focus all your energy on relaxing by diverting your attention to relax your body, without changing anything. You don't allow yourself to feel good because you're absorbed in fighting or disapproving of something or someone or yourself. You don't need to do that. If you think that you do this is your stubbornness talking, not you.
What is the closest thing that you have? What is the one thing that is important to you the most? Do you depend on it? Or perhaps can't be without it? Is it more than one thing? Take a moment to think about the things that are closest to you that you can't be without. Now ask yourself - Do I believe that what I have will always exist there for me or am I worried about what I have disappearing from my life?
Most of our life we wait for something to happen. For circumstance to change. For an opportunity to present itself. For the stars to line up just so we can make that final decision, and not look back. Because that is essentially what change really is. A firm decision that is backed up by our conviction that what we want is possible for us to have right now, and so we go for it.
Are you are looking to fix your emotional pain and seek help? Have you ever found yourself wanting to share but didn't have anyone that can truly listen? We all have our stories that hurt us, but not all are sure what to do with them. Most times we don't know how to make ourselves feel better and ponder why we can't heal for so long