Understand that nothing defines you, not even your thoughts and emotions. Choose to focus all your energy on relaxing by diverting your attention to relax your body, without changing anything. You don't allow yourself to feel good because you're absorbed in fighting or disapproving of something or someone or yourself. You don't need to do that. If you think that you do this is your stubbornness talking, not you.
What is the closest thing that you have? What is the one thing that is important to you the most? Do you depend on it? Or perhaps can't be without it? Is it more than one thing? Take a moment to think about the things that are closest to you that you can't be without. Now ask yourself - Do I believe that what I have will always exist there for me or am I worried about what I have disappearing from my life?
Most of our life we wait for something to happen. For circumstance to change. For an opportunity to present itself. For the stars to line up just so we can make that final decision, and not look back. Because that is essentially what change really is. A firm decision that is backed up by our conviction that what we want is possible for us to have right now, and so we go for it.
Are you are looking to fix your emotional pain and seek help? Have you ever found yourself wanting to share but didn't have anyone that can truly listen? We all have our stories that hurt us, but not all are sure what to do with them. Most times we don't know how to make ourselves feel better and ponder why we can't heal for so long
The disapproval that we feel towards ourselves or others is often followed by a forceful attempt to accept what is for the sake of feeling better or preserving peace. Even though we might disagree with our parents, partners, friends, children, we often will choose not to engage in an argument despite the way we feel.
Thinking about the day that we're no longer going to be here as sad as it may feel, it brings a sense of relief with it. Because we are finally released from judging ourselves and our past. If you're no longer here, there is no one left to think about your agonizing thoughts right? No one to think about what bothers you. No one to judge the way you feel or look.
Are you having difficulties committing to what you want to achieve? Do you find yourself quitting even before starting? Empowerment speeches don't do it for you anymore? You just don't see yourself overcoming the obstacles in your life. If any of this is true you might want to get a deeper realization about your situation