My life, my job, my parents, my spouse, my personality, my thoughts, my body. Are these "things" really yours? You might believe that they are since they are close to you, noticed by you. However, they are all temporary, some just passing you by and some are perishable.
When there is nothing left. When you've reached a point of no return. When you feel that you exhausted yourself, drained yourself. When old thoughts and reason do not interest you anymore. When you are tired of your own suffering or boredom. It is time to expand and go beyond all that is familiar. This is when we can allow our old personality to "die" and reborn into a lighter version of ourselves where everything is much clearer, calmer, and freer