sometimes when we feel heavy emotions, it seems like they pin us down, corners us, the heaviness is inescapable. However, if you think about emotions in general including the heavy emotions. Emotion is not a being of its own, it doesn't have a mind of its own, it doesn't have a purpose of its own, it doesn't have a will.
As children, we are physically and mentally limited. Therefore we rely on our parents to care for us. We learn to trust and depend on external factors, to feel safe. As a result, we find ourselves continually expecting the feeling of safety to come from the outside.