Tag: blame

Personal Growth

Why we Regret?

The shortest answer to this question would be – We regret because we can’t forgive ourselves. We can’t forgive ourselves for behaving a certain way, making certain decisions, hurting someone, not taking action, not spending enough time doing something we love or being with someone we love. Simply put, regret is basically self-blame. Looking back at what was and concluding that we could have done something differently,…
Personal Growth

I Blame Myself

You cannot force yourself to feel. Feelings are already present in you, some of us can feel their emotions more than others. If you think that you can’t feel emotions, it’s not true, you are simply unable to become aware to what you feel because you are heavily invested in other things that take away your attention from your emotions. It is important to understand that we have no control over how we feel. We don’t decide to feel…
Addictions Personal Growth

Don’t judge your addictions

What is an addiction? Is it a moment of control? freedom? peace? Illusory peace, but still peace. We are addicted to things that make us feel good or make us forget about what feels not so good. Food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, porn, gambling, television, sport, meditation, smartphone, social interaction. Anything you run to, from whatever you don’t like in your experience right now. Addictions come as a result of wanting to feel…
Personal Growth

Don’t do that

When people say to you – Don’t do that Don’t say that Why do you think that? Don’t think that. You might feel obligated to comply to respect their will, especially when it is someone’s that is important to you. Your partner, your parent, your superior. When someone tells us what not to do or not to say or not think. It feels bad. It feels bad because we have a belief that we are obligated to comply with that person’s…
Personal Growth

A thought doesn’t distract you, only you distract yourself with thought

Imagine that your thoughts are floating in colorful soap bubbles. Each though in a floating bubble. A bubble is free to move in any direction, you’re free to make it move in any direction. A thought is not an object, it has no weight. It is free to float like air. You are free to notice it. To follow it. To direct it in any way. There is no need to pop the bubble of thought. It is beautiful. It is free. It is free to collide with another thought bubble.…
Fear Health Personal Growth

Who is to blame?

Do you perceive yourself as being an inseparable part of your life’s circumstance? You might think that your thoughts and emotions only come up as a direct reaction to circumstance. The circumstance that comes to get you, to hurt you, to make you miserable. If only the circumstance around me was exactly as I picture it then I would be okay, in fact, I would be more than okay I would be happy if things aligned to my will. Average person’s…