Understand that nothing defines you, not even your thoughts and emotions. Choose to focus all your energy on relaxing by diverting your attention to relax your body, without changing anything. You don't allow yourself to feel good because you're absorbed in fighting or disapproving of something or someone or yourself. You don't need to do that. If you think that you do this is your stubbornness talking, not you.
What stops from doing what we want? What prevents us from planning and executing our plans? Is it boring work or forgetting about the big picture while doing the tedious work day after day? What puts out our flame of desire? Why we get to a point from which we no longer understand why we do what we do?
Can you define yourself? Should you? The very attempt doing so will always result in looking in our past. Nevertheless, we are continually being asked to describe ourselves at job interviews, social encounters, romantic dates, etc. But what if I don't want to be the result of my past experiences, conclusions, and actions. Who am I then?
Are you are looking to fix your emotional pain and seek help? Have you ever found yourself wanting to share but didn't have anyone that can truly listen? We all have our stories that hurt us, but not all are sure what to do with them. Most times we don't know how to make ourselves feel better and ponder why we can't heal for so long
The disapproval that we feel towards ourselves or others is often followed by a forceful attempt to accept what is for the sake of feeling better or preserving peace. Even though we might disagree with our parents, partners, friends, children, we often will choose not to engage in an argument despite the way we feel.
Thinking about the day that we're no longer going to be here as sad as it may feel, it brings a sense of relief with it. Because we are finally released from judging ourselves and our past. If you're no longer here, there is no one left to think about your agonizing thoughts right? No one to think about what bothers you. No one to judge the way you feel or look.