Life tends to sway us from side to side, put us down, show us that what we want is not realistic. Society influences us about how we need to live our lives and judges us if we divert from the conventual ways of living. As a result, we prefer to isolate and avoid people that lecture us how we should live our lives
What is the closest thing that you have? What is the one thing that is important to you the most? Do you depend on it? Or perhaps can't be without it? Is it more than one thing? Take a moment to think about the things that are closest to you that you can't be without. Now ask yourself - Do I believe that what I have will always exist there for me or am I worried about what I have disappearing from my life?
Can you define yourself? Should you? The very attempt doing so will always result in looking in our past. Nevertheless, we are continually being asked to describe ourselves at job interviews, social encounters, romantic dates, etc. But what if I don't want to be the result of my past experiences, conclusions, and actions. Who am I then?
Most of our life we wait for something to happen. For circumstance to change. For an opportunity to present itself. For the stars to line up just so we can make that final decision, and not look back. Because that is essentially what change really is. A firm decision that is backed up by our conviction that what we want is possible for us to have right now, and so we go for it.
Our instincts direct us to search our minds for inspiration. But when our thoughts come up with nothing that leads us to conclude that we've reached the end of the road. The more time we spend being stuck, the more we become convinced in our self-diagnosed problem. But how do we break free from that? How we can detach from this state of being stuck?
At one point or another, we are all tricked into following what we fear and not what we want. Only few dare to follow their desires all in without looking back. You can't fake going all the way. Those that try are continuously looking back to check up with their fears. Managing fear is time and emotion consuming. People can't operate being afraid all the time. Fear limits our freedom and creativity. Even those that work the jobs they hate are committed to doing so fearlessly.
Being yourself is the oldest advice in the book, however almost no one applies it to their lives. If there is an area in your life that you're unsatisfied with, it is exactly because of that. What makes it difficult to be yourself is our unwillingness to see the choices that we make, that do not represent who we are.