I'm not here to convince you that people are good, because you already know that. My intention is to turn your attention to the things that create a contradiction with that fact. Meaning that while I believe that people are good, my thoughts and actions still carry doubt when it comes to everyday life.
My life, my job, my parents, my spouse, my personality, my thoughts, my body. Are these "things" really yours? You might believe that they are since they are close to you, noticed by you. However, they are all temporary, some just passing you by and some are perishable.
Sometimes when we are lied to, we call it deception, disrespect, other times we call it a betrayal. Either way, you look at it, we feel hurt, and the reason we get hurt is that we depend on other people's opinions about us. And when we find out that our source of approval was dishonest we begin to question our own worthiness
We surround ourselves with obligations, contracts, promises that we're afraid to break. What others would think, would I be able to survive or ask for help if I change? Questions of this sort scare us from even beginning thinking about change. Things like pride, status, disappointing others, scare us and we do not dare to explore why. Declaring instant defeat to fear. We'll do anything not to feel vulnerable. Otherwise, the image that we've created might crumble and nothing will remain of us.
Although it might work sometimes, faking it till you make it does not feel good. Is forcing yourself to push through no matter what, is healthy? On the other hand does nourishing our emotions all the time is necessary? All we really want is to take action from a sincere place feeling good about ourselves. Here is how you do it.