Understand that nothing defines you, not even your thoughts and emotions. Choose to focus all your energy on relaxing by diverting your attention to relax your body, without changing anything. You don't allow yourself to feel good because you're absorbed in fighting or disapproving of something or someone or yourself. You don't need to do that. If you think that you do this is your stubbornness talking, not you.
Life tends to sway us from side to side, put us down, show us that what we want is not realistic. Society influences us about how we need to live our lives and judges us if we divert from the conventual ways of living. As a result, we prefer to isolate and avoid people that lecture us how we should live our lives
What stops from doing what we want? What prevents us from planning and executing our plans? Is it boring work or forgetting about the big picture while doing the tedious work day after day? What puts out our flame of desire? Why we get to a point from which we no longer understand why we do what we do?
Can you define yourself? Should you? The very attempt doing so will always result in looking in our past. Nevertheless, we are continually being asked to describe ourselves at job interviews, social encounters, romantic dates, etc. But what if I don't want to be the result of my past experiences, conclusions, and actions. Who am I then?
Our instincts direct us to search our minds for inspiration. But when our thoughts come up with nothing that leads us to conclude that we've reached the end of the road. The more time we spend being stuck, the more we become convinced in our self-diagnosed problem. But how do we break free from that? How we can detach from this state of being stuck?